My mom is celebrating her 80th b-day this month.
Quickie back story: My mom and dad (*passed away 12/04), bless them- have 12 children. I am one of 12. I have 6 sisters (*2 of them, I really don’t count cuz they have mad cow disease) and 5 brothers. I am second to the youngest. I am her favorite, I just know it in my heart.
Anywho.
I’m not going into micro details here because I’m bored with them myself. We all live locally except 2 sisters on the East Coast and they are flying in. BUT, my one sister is NOT going to go because she has picked another victim is hopping mad at one of my other sisters now. She lives locally and has no excuse to not go. But she’s created one which includes everything that everyone has ever done or said wrong to her in the last 20 years- all of which does not involve my mother.
I’m just wondering what the fuck is wrong with this crazy bitch? She is upset with her life, her family, and whatever else has crawled up her ass sideways, and now is going to show us all by hurting our mom? She’s 45 years old now. Are you seriously still playing the same games?
They hired a photographer. By her not showing up, she has ruined the family picture for my mom. I’ve already decided that when I get the hard copies I am going to photo-shop in an ugly bag lady in her place.
I’ve watched this cowardice of a woman for years in action. When I stood up to her 15 years ago, I really got labeled the black sheep because everyone else was so damn afraid of her. I was too, but after taking it up the ass for years, I just had enough and told her to screw off. My family… they are a bunch of wussies. I love them dearly but the truth cannot be handled in any shape or form. Until now?
Everyone is PISSED off at her now. Me, meh…. whatever. To me she’s a child that has thrown another rock in the lake looking to see the ripple effect (*Credit Dr. Phelan Book) and I could care less. Everyone is running around in shock at her latest stunt, but I’m not even phased. I just feel sad for my mom.
Oh wow. That’s really inconsiderate of your sister. An 80th birthday is a BIG DEAL and she should go – if only for your mom. My younger sister and I don’t get along at all but I don’t make everyone else in my family suffer for it.
Hi Nic. REALLY REALLY REALLY inconsiderate. Can you believe someone would do that? She really is selfish, self centered- quite possibly mentally ill – I mean, who is that age still dragging out the stupid petty crap of the past? Thanks for the comment. I’ll be by your place soon! I saw your pics of your babies on Facebook this morning and it made me smile! They are so sweet!
Well, one out of twelve I suppose is not so bad! I agree that it is unfortunate that she feels she cannot go, but on the bright side, maybe it will be better without her there. At least she will not cause problems during the party! It’s sad, but it really is her loss. I hope the rest of you have a great time!
BP- Even though she is totally obnoxious, and when I hear her talk super loud- I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me – I know what it would mean to my mother; my mom is a peacemaker and a lover. My sister is only hurting herself and mom. I cannot fathom being raises as one of 12 kids and disrespecting my mother like this for her 80th. Who knows how much longer she’ll be around for? My sister is too stubborn to regret her actions. I personally think she needs to seek help but I’d never suggest it because nobody can talk to her. We’re all messed up in our own special way- just never thought she’d take it out on our sweet mother. I’ll have fun regardless. People are flying in from ALL OVER to wish my mom a Happy Birthday!
It’s sad but unlikely that your mom is unaware of your crazy-ass sister’s mental problems regarding her family. Moms tens to know shit like this. Will she miss her daughter’s presence? Yes! But I am thinking the pluses outweigh the minuses here. It sounds like everyone will have a much better time without her angry presence!
Photoshop the WORST picture of this sister into the family phot. That way she’s there but will HATE that you used that picture!! Hahaha
Payback is a bitch! LOL
Girl, I am soooooooooooo going to photoshop something in there just for my satisfaction. Maybe a woman w/ a pug dog face – or something equally as funky! I’m so mean
heeeeheeeee
We all have one of those relatives in our family. Mine is a half-sister of whom I refer to as a half-breed. Isn’t it funny how when you stand up to them then you become the black sheep?! I myself have always prefered black over white anyway!
I am sure you, the rest of your gang and your mom will have a blast!
Well, from one black sheep to another- love ya sistah girl! Baaaaaaah! *wink* You know what they say, once you go black….
Stand back, Mabs, while I lay a huge whuppin’ on that sister of yours! There is no reason in the world good enough for not being at a mom’s 80th birthday! None. What an ungrateful little b*tch.
That said, it’s wonderful that you have such a big family. You’ll all be able to have a great time and no one will even miss the absent idiot child.
Ok, I loved this so much that I decided to hold her down and let YOU do the honors. Oh, bitch is right on the money! BITCH BITCH BITCH! We wont miss her, trust me- she’s a heifer- but my mom will. Cuz, well- that’s her daughter- the ugly toad is still her daughter after all…..
Will you be posting the photoshopped version? I’d really love to see it.
Ya know what? Yes! I might need some help from the photoshop expert BirdPress but yes- I feel the need to share that with you guys! Thanks Jean, good idea!
It really is sad she is not going to be there for this important thing for her mom but part of me agrees with Trisha. Your mom knows. Moms just know and it may sting her, but the rest of you will make the day great for her. I’m also with Jean Has Been Shopping. I want to see the photoshopped photo
My mom has always made excuses for her bad behavior- saying, “Oh, that’s just the way she is” which has been annoying. I knew her true ass colors would show through one day. We will have fun and I will post a pic for all to see! xoxoxoxo
You are not the black sheep, you are one in a million!!! It take a lot to stand up to someone like that, she sounds very immature…I am thankful to be in a family that gets along with one another and if we are angry with each other it is usually a forgive and forget thing. My pet peeve with my family is communication, no one does it. They are all to busy to keep up with psychotherapy and that just really ticks me off…now the only time we see each other is at funerals.
I hope your mom has a nice birthday.
I don’t know how that word psychotherapy got in there…lol….lol….lol…I meant each other. LOL! Ha ha ha ha ha! kinda fits…he he!
Love you,
Melanie…lol
Oh, immature? Yeah. For sure. You are lucky that you all get along. I think we do ok with the exception of just a few, which out of 12 ‘aint a bad percentage LOL! Imagine if I only had 1 or 2 siblings and they were asshats? Then I’d be up a creek- LOL! Thanks Mel
It’s a pity ~ but I’m guessing she would have spoiled the party anyway. So ENJOY it without her and then send her the photos of the FUN that you had because she didn’t spoil it by turning up. :wicked laugh!:
It is a pity, just thinking about my mom but I am sooooooooo going to photoshop her ass- LOL! I wouldn’t even waste the stamp to send her the pictures. She is such a brat!
Oh ~ and Happy Birthday to your Mom! Enjoy that party!
Thank you
wow. I got nothing. I see this all the time with my husbands side of the family. There are 8 of them I think…I lost fucking count. Anyhow 2 or more of them in a room will result in a fight and/or somebody leaving pissed off and not speaking. There are only 2 of them I will be around. When the others are there..there is not enough medication in the free world for me to be in the same space.
I don’t know..my side just has never been like this. I think me and my oldest sister got into a little spat once and we didn’t talk for a bit but then we just kind of got over it and moved on. Is this common in larger families? I’m just curious.
Sorry you are having to go through this anne and I hope the bitch realizes that she’s not hurting anybody but your mom. That’s the sad part. I mean yeah I can tell you are pissed off but it will eventually roll off you and the one left with the broken heart is your mom
I don’t know if it’s common amongst larger families because I’m the only one I know with 11 brothers and sisters! We have had our ups and downs in the past- this particular coo-coo bird is usually the one involved whenever there is a problem. She might not actually be “in” the fight but she was stirring the pot- almost guaranteed. But, the one thing NOT tolerated in my family, from anyone… is the mistreatment or disrespect of my parents…. so now she’s gone and done it. Wow, she pulled the ultimate action, she’s gone as far as someone has ever gone in this family. Yes, broken hearted she will be if her daughter doesn’t show up. You’d just have to know my mom to understand what a tender hearted soul she is. She is one in a zillion.
Wow, how rude of your sister. I feel very sorry for your mother because she is the person that will hurt the most from all of this. A family photo is something ALL of you can cherish for the rest of your lives. It’s too bad one of your sisters is too immature to realise this.
Sorry to hear all of this Mabs.
Me too! Sorry that she cannot see beyond herself. We’ll all have a great time. One day, sadly, my mother will go to her final resting place and my sister wont be able to re-count this awesome celebration! It’s going to be a hoot because most of my family are drinkers and like to party hard. Should be great. Not to mention my brother is giving a speech- and he gave one at my dad’s funeral that had us all laughing and crying. Should be a good one! Take care man!
There are some people that no matter what goes on in the world – they can’t see past the end of their own nose.
I feel bad for your mom.
I have been the black sheep of my family for years – so many years I have lost count. It isn’t so bad. LOL
Know I am praying for your family.
Very true Yeve. I felt bad for my mom too, but the party was fun and she looked so shocked that people came in from all over the country! Thanks for the prayers, I can always use those- thanks!